in 1994, Cake said

Excess ain't rebellion

You're drinkin' what they're selling

Your self-destruction doesn't hurt them

Your chaos won't convert them

They're so happy to rebuild it

You'll never really kill it, aw, yeah

And in 2013 Duncan Trussell said

"If you can forgive yourself then you will no longer see the reflection of your own internal judgement in the faces of the people around you. And if you can do that then suddenly you’ll be in a whole different universe because the universe we all exist in is the one where we’re all so terrified of the judgement of our peers."

To me forgiving yourself and living in the whole different universe that Duncan Trussell is talking about has a lot to do with things like warmth, vulnerability, understanding, introspection, trust, connection. 

Rock n' Roll Lifestyle is a really good song though. You should listen to that song and then you should write a heartfelt letter to someone and then you should look yourself in the mirror and say, I'd give you a little kiss on the forehead if I could but I can't cuz you're me.