part two in my 'be like a tree' series

this time I'm not sleep deprived so maybe it will be worse. in part one we talked about how trees don't try to blow or not blow in the breeze, they just do it. 

in part two we will talk about doing the same thing every day but different. a tree has got to make leaves and flowers and sap and tree stuff. a human has to let the people around them know that they care about them. it's like that line in the louis armstrong song, 'what a wonderful world' he says, "I see friends shaking hands saying, 'how do you?' they're really saying, 'I love you."

you get to show it and say it and recreate it every day and that's what language and imagination and creativity is for. 

I love an underlying question. I could think about underlying questions all day long. you start thinking about underlying questions--that's where the juice is. And I think the underlying question of most interactions is 'do you care about me?' and also 'how much? is it the amount I think?' It kinda makes sense when people talk about constantly asking, 'do you hate me?' 'are you mad at me?' I don't think that's pure paranoia and insecurity.That question is the nugget at the heart of a good amount of conversations. That's what we're all trying to figure out.  

we lost the tree analogy but it's a great and beautiful thing to get to show people you care about them. And it's new every time but it's also the same thing again and again. Not to act like bad people don't exist and that interactions can't be painful and fraught and difficult. It's like football. Like if trees played football. There are penalties and injuries and unsportsmanlike contact but that's not the game. That's not the ultimate goal. Those things are part of the game but the purpose is to score a touchdown--a touchdown of bond and caring.